Imagine your perfect day.
Having breakfast with the kids, smiling faces all around. Each of you going to their own daily activities ranging from work to school. Through out the day, work goes by as per usual, problems here and there but maintaining your composure and the rest of your colleagues following instructions methodically, mission-focused and calm. A job well done as the boss pats you on the back and everyone goes home satisfied with the productivity of the day. Moving on back home, to be greeted by the smiling faces of your family as you sit down to have a home cooked meal or get everyone ready to go out and have a nice family meal without the hassle of cooking and washing. Pull out a good book to read as you snuggle into your favorite spot before turning in for the day.
Sounds pretty good huh?
Days like these don’t happen often enough in most peoples’ lives as they should but this should be the standard for which we should aim for. There’s a sound reason for why it does not, it’s because we do not appreciate the happy moments in our lives, these happy moments happen to us and for us but the thoughts that occupy our minds are usually the unpleasant things, how the kids wake up so slowly, how the traffic jam is, the state of the country, Zika virus outbreaks, how the company could mess up so royally and your department has to clean up somebody else’s mess. All the stated ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts) I just mentioned can happen on the same day as the above “perfect day”.
The thoughts we chose to have affect our world view and consequently the way we view our lives and the way we treat people around us. Have you met a negative person before? A person who can’t bring anything new, fresh, fun to the table but loads all the crap they’ve built up in their lives onto you? No thanks buddy, even if it’s a family member, something needs to change and this persons’ dissatisfaction with life should not be loaded onto you. Remember though, sometimes, we might be the ones loading our crap onto the people we love.
Catch yourself complaining about how your colleagues weren’t doing their best or the guy on the road cuts you off because he can’t wait. Try appreciating when someone on the road was gracious enough to give way as you tried to filter in or when your colleague treated you to coffee.
As Oprah Winfrey once said: “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough”
Have a good day!